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This site is pointless anyway Results Polls Votes 295  Forum FAQ  •  Search  •  Memberlist  •  Usergroups   •  Register  •  Profile  •  Log in to check your private messages  •  Log in Jointcrackers Forum Index » Joint cracking » DJ100's story  DJ100's story « View previous topic :: View next topic »  Author Message dj100 Posted: Thu Jan 07, 2010 2:04 pm    Post subject: DJ100's story Supreme Jointcracker Joined: Jun 26, 2008 Posts: 613 Dec Jefferson December 31, 2009 at 9:21pm a bit of background... im 19 years old now. however, when i was at school, i was very quiet and a target to get picked on. i got the "usual" bullying which i have long forgotten, but the one event that sticks out is this: when i was in year 8 or 9, i was innocently doing my work in a tech lesson. then, out of nowhere, i get a massive BANG on the back of my neck. i turn around and see someone from my class called sam walking off briskly. this guy sam: i dont think i ever even spoke to him let alone do anything wrong to him, so he had no reason whatsoever to punch me. it was an assault basically, if it happened outside of school i could have gone to the police. but at the time, because i didnt actually see him doing it, i didnt want to make a fool of myself in case i was wrong.... i didnt even feel i could tell a teacher as i didnt actually see it happening. (i did tell the teacher another time about the other stuff sam did to me, and he got in big trouble for it, but that is no consolation for the punch and the effect it has had). The effect it has had: well, my neck still clicks and cracks every day from it. Every morning i wake up to a bad neck. At points during every day it clicks and aches. However I have been to many doctors, physios and chiropractors who cannot get rid of the clicking. Its a psychological thing: everytime it clicks it reminds me of sam, and makes me think that my present (6 years on from the event) is still being completely dictated by what he did. Ok so more about the present: i am at uni and I am seeing an NHS CBT therapist (cognitive behavioural therapy). This is outside of uni but its going fairly well. Had 9 sessions so far out of a possible 20. It is nice to share my feelings. HOWEVER, i am a bit worried in the long term because it is still not really changing anything, i will have to be blunt with my therapist about this when i next see him, i hope he isnt offended. Thanks for taking the time to read this. Back to top tinnamariee Posted: Thu Jan 07, 2010 2:12 pm    Post subject: Jointcracker Joined: Dec 29, 2009 Posts: 30 It is psychological -- the point of CBT is to change abnormal thoughts and coping mechanisms. Explain to your therapist how you don't see much change, especially if your half way through your limit. You should have some treatment goals and methods to reach those goals, if this sounds unfamiliar to you, bring it up to your therapist or find a new one. As tragic as your incident was, at some point, you have to forgive and move on. It may seem difficult with a constant neck clicking but, you have to find some way around it. Seeing as though I am only a therapist in training, I cannot necessarily give you appropriate advice -- talk to your therapist. Back to top dj100 Posted: Fri Jan 08, 2010 1:26 am    Post subject: Supreme Jointcracker Joined: Jun 26, 2008 Posts: 613 tinnamariee wrote: It is psychological -- the point of CBT is to change abnormal thoughts and coping mechanisms. Explain to your therapist how you don't see much change, especially if your half way through your limit. You should have some treatment goals and methods to reach those goals, if this sounds unfamiliar to you, bring it up to your therapist or find a new one. As tragic as your incident was, at some point, you have to forgive and move on. It may seem difficult with a constant neck clicking but, you have to find some way around it. Seeing as though I am only a therapist in training, I cannot necessarily give you appropriate advice -- talk to your therapist. like today i was happily in the gym then my neck clicked and reminded me... and it gives me excess saliva in my mouth when i worry about it - any idea why? is this a normal side effect of anxiety? please reply. Back to top jb09 Posted: Wed Apr 28, 2010 4:08 pm    Post subject: Junior Jointcracker Joined: Apr 28, 2010 Posts: 2 Location: St Louis You must live a fairly charmed life if your greatest complaint is being punched in the neck six years ago. While I can sympathize, I too suffer neck pain (right? or is it just clicking?), why is it you don't take any of the advice offered all over this forum and, from what you have shared, other forums too? I understand venting but, really, have you truly committed to getting better? Maybe you have become addicted to these little pity parties you're throwing for yourself. You're at uni, forget about the petty nonsense that went on in high school and enjoy yourself. Go out and party, meet some girls (or boys) and try to get lucky. I guarantee you won't be thinking about your neck or Sam during that. You'll really kick yourself later if you spend all your time now worrying about something that happened in 9th grade. And seriously, not to minimize your pain, but how bad could a punch in the neck really be? It couldn't be worse than the car that slammed into me when I was in high school. Thank god I didn't spend all of uni obsessing over the chronic pain it caused me. I went to a chiropractor once a week and took some pain killers if it started to act up and spent the rest of the time going to class and having a good time. Anyway I am not trying to be a ball buster here but take some time and think about it, think about exactly what you are getting out of holding on to all this pain and angst. Looks to me like nothing at all. Take care, be well and for God's sake, go have some fun. Back to top Danielle Posted: Thu Apr 29, 2010 2:58 am    Post subject: Jointcracker Joined: Jun 19, 2009 Posts: 49 Yes, but.... Yes, but... Yes, BUT... Back to top dj100 Posted: Fri Apr 30, 2010 6:56 am    Post subject: Supreme Jointcracker Joined: Jun 26, 2008 Posts: 613 jb09 wrote: You must live a fairly charmed life if your greatest complaint is being punched in the neck six years ago. While I can sympathize, I too suffer neck pain (right? or is it just clicking?), why is it you don't take any of the advice offered all over this forum and, from what you have shared, other forums too? I understand venting but, really, have you truly committed to getting better? Maybe you have become addicted to these little pity parties you're throwing for yourself. You're at uni, forget about the petty nonsense that went on in high school and enjoy yourself. Go out and party, meet some girls (or boys) and try to get lucky. I guarantee you won't be thinking about your neck or Sam during that. You'll really kick yourself later if you spend all your time now worrying about something that happened in 9th grade. And seriously, not to minimize your pain, but how bad could a punch in the neck really be? It couldn't be worse than the car that slammed into me when I was in high school. Thank god I didn't spend all of uni obsessing over the chronic pain it caused me. I went to a chiropractor once a week and took some pain killers if it started to act up and spent the rest of the time going to class and having a good time. Anyway I am not trying to be a ball buster here but take some time and think about it, think about exactly what you are getting out of holding on to all this pain and angst. Looks to me like nothing at all. Take care, be well and for God's sake, go have some fun. Someone that understands me, thank you Back to top Sam Posted: Thu Jun 03, 2010 7:28 am    Post subject: Dj100 Junior Jointcracker Joined: Jun 02, 2010 Posts: 1 HAHA dj100 I'm here to raise hell on you again and on more then your neck! You are a worthless cunt and should hang yourself. Fucking bitch. Back to top goneawol Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 6:14 pm    Post subject: Re: DJ100's story Junior Jointcracker Joined: Sep 20, 2011 Posts: 3 I am a 2x war vet who is 28 years old tomorrow. Being punched in the back of the neck is cake to having a VBIED blow up and the doc pulling shards of metal and rubber out of your neck. GET A GRIP, the more you feed the beast "anxiety" the more it grows. Tame it, or it will make you. Go salivate in a nude bar, get over your fears, grab your nuts I know you got some buried in those tight emo pants your probably wear. My two cents. Pussy. 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